Husbands and wives 5
'Husbands...live with your wives, and treat them with respect.' 1 Peter 3:7 NIV
You must get to know your wife and respect her needs. When God made woman, he made her to be a receiver and responder. He made her a little softer, a little warmer, a little more emotional in order to respond to you. A woman responds to a man in such a way that the very thing he wants, he will receive by giving instead of demanding.
When your wife feels truly loved and secure you won't have to worry about her fulfilling her responsibility in the home. You won't have to wonder if you'll have an active, intimate, physical relationship. She'll be right there responding to your needs. But that means you must put your wife and family first. Sometimes that means saying, 'Sorry, guys, I can't go out with you tonight because I'm taking my wife on a date.' When you're that kind of husband, you'll get the kind of response you want without demanding it.
But be prepared; there may be issues festering under the surface that need to be dealt with before you can move forward as a couple. If so, be humble enough to say, 'I'm sorry I've failed you. I haven't loved you the way I was supposed to and I know it has affected our relationship. I haven't given you the time and attention you need. But starting today I'm going to change. With God's help, I'm going to try to love you the way you deserve to be loved.' Now, sir, your wife may faint when she first hears it, but if you follow through, you can have the marriage you always dreamed of.
Soulfood: Neh 8-10, Mark 12:13-27, Ps 78:56-64, Prov 24: 5-9